I agree with 99% of this article and I’m so sorry you’ve been hurt by multiple romantic partners, as have I. Patriarchy is real, stereotypes abound and we feel intense pressure to conform, or to completely reject an outdated expectation. However not all women who don’t work to be as physically fit as you, do so because we don’t want to assume our power (physical strength is only one type of power and not even the most important one). Some just had a baby, just lost a loved one, and some like myself, struggle with chronic illness. I was always the lone wolf, I don’t need a man, I can do it all myself. That was true, but after meeting my current partner, I discovered I had erected huge walls because I hadn’t done the inner wok to heal from past abuse. And I find it touching when he wants to do something for me, I realized that’s how it’s supposed to be - we provide for each other. Women also need to go within, be vulnerable, tear down our walls and reject the idea that we must act like a man to be powerful. If we ask him to do it, we have to walk the talk as well…