I appreciate this article so much, because I’ve both been the recipient of dangerous male anger and a woman who could to give it back nearly as hard. I too, felt so ashamed after losing my sh*t, until my therapist said nearly the same thing - that anger is an indicator that someone has disrespected my boundaries.

The problem isn’t that I got angry, it’s that I didn’t have sufficient communication skills to express and set a healthy boundary before I went ballistic. I spent an entire year practicing ‘when I get irritated or feel disrespected, I will address it right away.’ It helped tame the rage monster.

I liken it to a lion or lioness seeing a potential threat on the horizon and going out there to head it off, instead of waiting until the threat is 10 feet away from your offspring, because then you have no choice but to kill.

Emotional intelligence is something most of us have never been taught, but any work we do in this area, dramatically improves our personal and professional relationships. Super supportive of your journey!