It might be interesting for you to look into the Drama triangle, an unhealthy dynamic that people often play out, especially in families. One role is the victim, a person who takes on a helpless mentality that everything in life is conspiring against them. Another role is the rescuer, a person who sees someone else struggling or hurting and rushes in to do it for them, takes on the victim’s problems while sacrificing their own needs. Then, if the victim doesn’t like how the rescuing is happening, they turn and become the persecutor, blaming the other person and pointing fingers.

Recognizing when the drama triangle is showing up, who is playing what role empowers us to set healthy boundaries and step off the wheel, holding others in their personal power and allowing them to take on their own challenges…