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Physical Marriage, Spiritual Marriage

Bevin Niemann-Cortez
2 min readAug 28, 2018

In this lifetime, I have experienced both physical marriage and spiritual marriage.

You might wonder, what’s the difference?

Physical marriage takes place on this Earthly plane, it generally involves a period of dating, engagement, ceremony, celebration, the sharing of love and legal responsibility. I was in a physical marriage for over two decades, two souls walking a path together through a myriad of human experiences.

It was one of the relationships through which I learned the most.

Awakened to myself and to another. Practiced (if a bit unskillfully) communication and negotiation with a side twist of tribulation.

This is where I became aware that you chose your physical spouse as a mirror, what bothers you in them, is in turn held up for full examination.

Physical marriage can be beautiful. It’s also challenging, requiring daily vigilance and attention. The minute you get distracted and forget to tune-in to the other person, it can easily slide into complacency or discord.

Physical marriage is also worth every moment. Connecting that deeply with another human being is sacred.

How is spiritual marriage different?



Bevin Niemann-Cortez

Social-Emotional Healer | Sacred Space Designer | Budding Herbalist