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The subtleties between codependence, independence and interdependence
For anyone who in the past, found themselves engaged in codependent relationships, becoming independent is a huge step. Breaking away from needing to rescue others and allowing them to walk their own path while you walk yours, is essential.
Being independent feels like freedom. Yes, I am no longer responsible for other people! I will only pay attention to what I need and let them take care of themselves.
We often put up strong boundaries where previously there were none at all. You might call this action, the pendulum swing. If we were way over there before, we’re way over on the other side now.
If codependency was the type of relationship role-modeled in your childhood that you’ve played out again and again as an adult, you may have no idea what interdependence even looks like.
If codependence is a lack of personal sovereignty (neediness) and independence is taking back of your personal sovereignty (needlessness), then interdependence is the recognition of your personal sovereignty + the desire for connection. Understanding none of us walk through life alone, we need each other in certain ways.
Yet, how we express those needs matter.
