Thinking that if you just give a narcissist more empathy and compassion for how they suffered, and they will miraculously change their behavior and be kind to you - is a trauma attachment trap. It will never happen. Their brains are hard-wired to lack empathy and then they suffered trauma that they won't address because that would require self-reflection and self-accountability. Never going to happen. Doesn't mean you have to hate the person forever (temporary anger, feelings of betrayal and grief are normal), but it's healthy to say no more and go no contact. Articles like this encourage victims of narcissists to 'think about what they went through' and 'give them another chance'. When I did that with my ex-husband, he literally tried to kill me. Nope and nope.